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"Adopting one child won't change the world; but for that child, the world will change."

Saturday, February 9, 2013

Let The Good Times Roll

Well, it has been a year since I last blogged. When I reflect back over 2012, I feel like it was just a normal uneventful year for us. However in reality, it did deliver the constant change that is known as life. I went back to work full-time. It was hard (and still is) but Billy is self-employed and our healthcare has become so unaffordable. Fortunately, I really do like my job but it was still a huge change for us, or at least for me. I have accepted the fact that my house will never be as polished as it once was and that I will forever be frazzled, exhausted and shooting from the hip. I always say that I will rest when I die!

We were blessed with a wonderful lady, Jessica, that kept the kids at our house last summer. Well, they kept the roads hot and that warmed my heart because I didn't want the kids to miss out on library days, swimming, etc. just because I was working. Jessica is an angel sent straight down from Heaven. We all love her. I thought I had put my hurt feelings toward my Mom to rest in 2011 but they reared their ugly heads again in 2012. There has been a constant emotional war going on within myself for the last three years and a half years about the changes these adoptions have brought to our family dynamics. I am accepting the fact that I don't have to accept anything. Adoption is such a complicated, unnatural mess. It is so beautiful and yet so ugly all at the same time. Once upon a time, I thought of adoption as a story of purple unicorns riding in on bright rainbows spreading glitter with the swish of their tail. But now that I have lived it, I know that adoption is about loss. In order to gain through adoption, there has to be loss. My kids lost their biological parents but gained us. I gained my three, precious babies but have lost my parents in return. Would I do it all over again? You bet! Would I do things differently? You bet!

I pretty much discontinued this blog because I know it was hurtful to my family. However, I get approached so much about adoption that I really have a hard time keeping up with it all. This blog is where I usually refer people because this tells our story without me having to take time out of my already crazy schedule to answer everyone individually. While, I don't mean to hurt anyone, these are my rawest thoughts and feeling about adoption and our situation. I own every single word here. They are mine and I am not ashamed. So while, I won't be able to blog often, I'm going to be jumping in here this year and keep this blog relatively updated.


  1. Can you recommend good agencies in Georgia that help couples adopt from foster care?

  2. I would recommend starting out by calling your local Dept of Family & Children's Services. We didn't use and agency but went straight through our county. I know there are a lot of agencies that works with DFCS on placements but I have no first hand experience with any of them.

  3. Glad to see you back in BLOGLAND. I'm sorry that the "relationship" between you and your parents has suffered a loss. I think GRANDPARENTS are so essential to children at a whole. Being a PARENT, also an ADOPTIVE PARENT as well as a GRANDPARENT, It haunts me to think of such a "place" to be with ANY of my kids or grandkids. While I can't judge nor personally comment on your relationship, I pray that someday the relationship between you and your parents is restored.

    Shana you have a beautiful family and those kiddos are scrumptious!! I have enjoyed them on FB to the fullest! I still can't recall HOW I found your blog, but I'm so glad I did!! I would NEVER have been able to enjoy your FB POST and PICS if I hadn't!! :)

    Continued blessings to your family,

    Snekcip aka/Dawn