Well, it has been a year since I last blogged. When I reflect back over 2012, I feel like it was just a normal uneventful year for us. However in reality, it did deliver the constant change that is known as life. I went back to work full-time. It was hard (and still is) but Billy is self-employed and our healthcare has become so unaffordable. Fortunately, I really do like my job but it was still a huge change for us, or at least for me. I have accepted the fact that my house will never be as polished as it once was and that I will forever be frazzled, exhausted and shooting from the hip. I always say that I will rest when I die!
We were blessed with a wonderful lady, Jessica, that kept the kids at our house last summer. Well, they kept the roads hot and that warmed my heart because I didn't want the kids to miss out on library days, swimming, etc. just because I was working. Jessica is an angel sent straight down from Heaven. We all love her.
I thought I had put my hurt feelings toward my Mom to rest in 2011 but they reared their ugly heads again in 2012. There has been a constant emotional war going on within myself for the last three years and a half years about the changes these adoptions have brought to our family dynamics. I am accepting the fact that I don't have to accept anything. Adoption is such a complicated, unnatural mess. It is so beautiful and yet so ugly all at the same time. Once upon a time, I thought of adoption as a story of purple unicorns riding in on bright rainbows spreading glitter with the swish of their tail. But now that I have lived it, I know that adoption is about loss. In order to gain through adoption, there has to be loss. My kids lost their biological parents but gained us. I gained my three, precious babies but have lost my parents in return. Would I do it all over again? You bet! Would I do things differently? You bet!
I pretty much discontinued this blog because I know it was hurtful to my family. However, I get approached so much about adoption that I really have a hard time keeping up with it all. This blog is where I usually refer people because this tells our story without me having to take time out of my already crazy schedule to answer everyone individually. While, I don't mean to hurt anyone, these are my rawest thoughts and feeling about adoption and our situation. I own every single word here. They are mine and I am not ashamed. So while, I won't be able to blog often, I'm going to be jumping in here this year and keep this blog relatively updated.
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Can you recommend good agencies in Georgia that help couples adopt from foster care?
ReplyDeleteI would recommend starting out by calling your local Dept of Family & Children's Services. We didn't use and agency but went straight through our county. I know there are a lot of agencies that works with DFCS on placements but I have no first hand experience with any of them.
ReplyDeleteGlad to see you back in BLOGLAND. I'm sorry that the "relationship" between you and your parents has suffered a loss. I think GRANDPARENTS are so essential to children at a whole. Being a PARENT, also an ADOPTIVE PARENT as well as a GRANDPARENT, It haunts me to think of such a "place" to be with ANY of my kids or grandkids. While I can't judge nor personally comment on your relationship, I pray that someday the relationship between you and your parents is restored.
ReplyDeleteShana you have a beautiful family and those kiddos are scrumptious!! I have enjoyed them on FB to the fullest! I still can't recall HOW I found your blog, but I'm so glad I did!! I would NEVER have been able to enjoy your FB POST and PICS if I hadn't!! :)
Continued blessings to your family,
Snekcip aka/Dawn